Should i back off and let him do things on his own?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 yrs. Before him, I used to be sooo close to my best friends. Over the yrs, we all try to make an effort and hang out but then we all realize that it's too fake. Im not who I used to be. My boyfriend and I are great when we are together, but dont hang out with our friends as much as we used to anymore. We both feel as if everybody is too busy so we should just worry about ourselves and help each other get thru everyday. right now its at the pt where im losing all my friends because they feel as if my bf is the main reason. they think hes greedy, obsessive, and controlling. I dont see it like that. He always encourages me to call my friends up more often and hang out with them so that they dont think im ignoring them. however, when i do try that, most of the time, alot of ppl r busy and it seems like i try 4 nothing. but, my bf though, it seems like i baby him alot. most of the time i pay for things because hes broke and wont get paid on time. i always cook for him or if not, then find something he would like to eat since he hates greek food. i always go out of my way and make sure hes happy becuz of the situation hes in. everytime we go places, he would always act like a baby and say.. ooo i want this, can u buy this for me? then last wk i got annoyed and said from now on, im going to do the exact same thing he does so he can see how annoying it can be. then he laughes it off. my boyfriend is a great guy but sometimes he doesnt really think. i never get gifts anymore becuz hes always broke and never has money on the right occasions. yet i always get him things bcuz i kno itll make him happy. now i realize i have to stop buying him things. for vday, he couldve made me a card and i wouldve been happy but he said he thot i wouldnt have liked it. i got mad and said weve been together 4 4 yrs now so do u rly thnk i would get mad at somethig like tht? he feels guilty and claims hes a bad bf when he knows hes wrong. but i feel bad about things and forgive him all the times. should i just see him less? we love each other so much. theres a few fights here and there but now, i see him as my lifetime partner. we try not to fight bout things thats already been put past us. but my friends r startin to think we dont belong together. i need some opinions.. pleeeez