I've been swinging on both sides for months. How can I tell my wife?

i'm LDS as well and i'm sorry but what you are doing is horrible. you had the will to stop. heck with all this i'm sorry but you should be excommunicated, but its not up to me its up to the bishop. but FIRST talk to your bishop and see what he has to say and i wouldn't have with your wife who knows what STD's your getting.